This
is Grihastashram - the marriage or wedding i.e. union of a
bride and groom whose objective is to achieve completeness
of life. There are eight types of marriages according to Ashvalayam
Grihasutra Ashtvidhi Vivahprakar.
a) Brahmavivah
b) Daivyavivah
c) Prajapatyavivaha
d) Arshyavivaha
e) Gandharvavivaha
f) Assurvivaha
g) Paishch vivaha
h) Rakshashvivah
Of all these types, Brahmavivah is prevalent
and is performed.
Before performing ay of the above Sanskaras
or rites, the following rituals are to be performed
Of all these types, Brahmavivah is prevalent and is performed.
Before performing ay of the above Sanskaras or rites, the
following rituals are to be performed:
Ganapati Pujan: whose objective is to protect
from any obstacle or danger.
Punyahavachan: whose objective is to take the blessings of
Acharya or Purohit and others for the good of the ceremony.
Matruka Pujan: Puja is to be performed of twenty seven deities
such as Gauri, Padma, Shachi, Megha, Savitri including Kuladeva
etc. in order to avoid any obstacle or danger.
Nandi Shraddha: This is to be performed in order to appease
the God and the ancestors. It is believed that the performers
get prosperity in life.
Acharyavarn: By this the Acharya is given the authority to
perform the necessary rituals.
The first step is to see if the horoscope of both the bride
and groom tallies.
If the horoscope tallies then the Prasad-vinanti
is obtained from the Kuladeva (Family deity) of the groom.
This is taking the permission of the deity for the marriage
Then the auspicious day and time is to fixed. By the time
Civil Registration of marriage is done. Before that marriage
ritual cannot be performed by priest specially in Goa.
The chief rituals of the Vivah (marriage):
Vagdan: This is the word given by both parents.
This is as good as Sakharpuda.
Srimantpuja: Welcoming the groom and offering him dress and
ornaments.
Tailharidraropanvidhi: Bride and groom to be given a bath
with oil and Haladi.
Vivahapurvadinkritya: (Mandappratishta, Devaksthapana) - Devkarem
Varache Vadhugrahi Gaman: on the wedding day arrival of Groom
at the Bride's house.
Madhupark Puja: At the time of Kanyadaan, brides parents should
offer curd/milk with honey/jaggery.
Gaurihar Puja: Puja of Shiva Shankar & Parvati.
Antapatdharan: Curtain of loin cloth is held by priests between
the bride and the groom facing each other holding garlands
in their hands.
Mangalastake: These are the blessings from Gods and all the
manifestations of nature saying Kuryat Sada Mangalm. It is
customary that the bride wear the auspicious silver toe rings
called vede that are put on her feet by her brother.
Paraspar Nirikshan Mantra: after chanting this mantra bride
and groom should garland each other.
Kanyadanprayog: Swarnabhisek i.e. after putting a little gold
coin in water and sprinkling it on the bride and groom, Sutraveshtan
is winding of thread soaked in milk around the neck to the
waist of the bride and the groom five times, by the priest
signifying the marriage bond with love and fidelity, Kankanbandhan
is tying of the piece of Haldi with Kumkum, Mangalsutrabandhan
is tying of Mangalsutra of black beads with golden bead round
the neck of the bride, vastragranthibandhan is the tying of
knots to the ends of the Upavastra of the bride and the groom.
Panigrihan: This is standing of the groom in front of the
bride facing the west and holding the right hand of the bride
in his right hand and chanting the mantra with a promise of
giving her all the prosperity and requesting her to remain
with me forever in my oldage.
Vivah-Home: Lajahome is the home to be performed for the fruitfulness
of marriage. The fire is sacred fire. After the seventh round
and the Saptapadi is a procedure wherein the groom is holding
bride's toe and pulling her one after another on the seven
piles of rice taking a vow of fulfillment of marriage.
Vadhugruhapravesh or Gharbharoiuni: is the rituals performed
after returning home with the bride. When the bride enters
her husband's house as a married woman her mother-in-law places
a bowl of rice at the entrance of the house called Humbro.The
bride is then supposed to kick the rice with her right foot
in the house.
Naming Ceremony: This is a ceremony when the groom names his
wife with his ring on the plate spread with sugar.
Devakothapan & Mandapodwasan: This is the last religious
ritual of visarjan (removal) of the established deity along
with the mandap.
Panchpartavan: This is a social custom of inviting the groom
and his family members to the house of brides' parents for
lunch or dinner and offering them some gifts or the other.
Note: some of the rituals and customs vary from place to place
as per geographical divisions
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