This is Grihastashram - the
marriage or wedding i.e. union of a bride and groom whose objective
is to achieve completeness of life. There are eight types of marriages
according to Ashvalayam Grihasutra Ashtvidhi Vivahprakar.
g) Paishch vivaha
Of all these types, Brahmavivah is prevalent
and is performed.
Before performing ay of the above Sanskaras or
rites, the following rituals are to be performed
Of all these types, Brahmavivah is prevalent and is performed.
Before performing ay of the above Sanskaras or rites, the following
rituals are to be performed:
Ganapati Pujan: whose objective
is to protect from any obstacle or danger.
Punyahavachan: whose objective is to take the blessings of Acharya
or Purohit and others for the good of the ceremony.
Matruka Pujan: Puja is to be performed of twenty
seven deities such as Gauri, Padma, Shachi, Megha, Savitri including
Kuladeva etc. in order to avoid any obstacle or danger.
Nandi Shraddha: This is to be performed in order
to appease the God and the ancestors. It is believed that the
performers get prosperity in life.
Acharyavarn: By this the Acharya is given the authority to perform
the necessary rituals.
The first step is to see if the horoscope of both the bride and
If the horoscope tallies then the Prasad-vinanti
is obtained from the Kuladeva (Family deity) of the groom. This
is taking the permission of the deity for the marriage Then the
auspicious day and time is to fixed. By the time Civil Registration
of marriage is done. Before that marriage ritual cannot be performed
by priest specially in Goa.
The chief rituals of the Vivah (marriage):
Vagdan: This is the word given
by both parents. This is as good as Sakharpuda.
Srimantpuja: Welcoming the groom and offering
him dress and ornaments.
Tailharidraropanvidhi: Bride and groom to be given a bath with
oil and Haladi.
Vivahapurvadinkritya: (Mandappratishta, Devaksthapana) - Devkarem
Varache Vadhugrahi Gaman: on the wedding day arrival of Groom
at the Bride's house.
Madhupark Puja: At the time of Kanyadaan, brides
parents should offer curd/milk with honey/jaggery.
Gaurihar Puja: Puja of Shiva Shankar & Parvati.
Antapatdharan: Curtain of loin cloth is held
by priests between the bride and the groom facing each other holding
garlands in their hands.
Mangalastake: These are the blessings from Gods
and all the manifestations of nature saying Kuryat Sada Mangalm.
It is customary that the bride wear the auspicious silver toe
rings called vede that are put on her feet by her brother.
Paraspar Nirikshan Mantra: after chanting this
mantra bride and groom should garland each other.
Kanyadanprayog: Swarnabhisek i.e. after putting
a little gold coin in water and sprinkling it on the bride and
groom, Sutraveshtan is winding of thread soaked in milk around
the neck to the waist of the bride and the groom five times, by
the priest signifying the marriage bond with love and fidelity,
Kankanbandhan is tying of the piece of Haldi with Kumkum, Mangalsutrabandhan
is tying of Mangalsutra of black beads with golden bead round
the neck of the bride, vastragranthibandhan is the tying of knots
to the ends of the Upavastra of the bride and the groom.
Panigrihan: This is standing of the groom in
front of the bride facing the west and holding the right hand
of the bride in his right hand and chanting the mantra with a
promise of giving her all the prosperity and requesting her to
remain with me forever in my oldage.
Vivah-Home: Lajahome is the home to be performed
for the fruitfulness of marriage. The fire is sacred fire. After
the seventh round and the Saptapadi is a procedure wherein the
groom is holding bride's toe and pulling her one after another
on the seven piles of rice taking a vow of fulfillment of marriage.
Vadhugruhapravesh or Gharbharoiuni: is the rituals
performed after returning home with the bride. When the bride
enters her husband's house as a married woman her mother-in-law
places a bowl of rice at the entrance of the house called Humbro.The
bride is then supposed to kick the rice with her right foot in
Naming Ceremony: This is a ceremony when the
groom names his wife with his ring on the plate spread with sugar.
Devakothapan & Mandapodwasan: This is the
last religious ritual of visarjan (removal) of the established
deity along with the mandap.
Panchpartavan: This is a social custom of inviting
the groom and his family members to the house of brides' parents
for lunch or dinner and offering them some gifts or the other.
Note: some of the rituals and customs vary from
place to place as per geographical divisions